A few weeks ago, I unsubscribed from another dating blog giving bad advice. This was another instance where the female blogger seems to think that encouraging bad behaviour in its female readership is to “keep him in line” or make him more “romantic”. One of the most concerning bits of advice is how casually these bloggers encourage codependence. Continue reading “Codependency is Unhealthy. Why Do So Many Dating Bloggers Encourage It?”
.Mansplaining is a thing, but it’s not as prevalent or as systemic as feminists believe or tell each other. It’s not the deliberate and insidious tool of oppression that it is presented as. It’s just being a dick while having an inferiority complex that there is somebody who knows better than you do. Sure, some men feel threatened by knowledgeable and more qualified women, but it’s not the norm. Continue reading “Masculinity and “Womansplaining””
The media on both sides of the Atlantic have been falling over themselves to point to The Handmaid’s Tale as some kind of foreshadowing. Like 1984 and Brave New World before it, it’s held up as a warning of things to come if we don’t take a step back from the brink. I’m sure I’ll be accused of “mansplaining” or “not getting it”, but I cannot see this happening in The West anytime soon even under Trump who is more of an opportunist than anything else.
A recent report from Japan has shown that relationship conventions are changing. People are marrying older than they ever were, fewer people are marrying and the birth rate is dropping. Once again it’s being held up as some sort of crisis. This has been the growing trend for many years in the west. Analysis of the Japanese “problem” focuses on the same sorts of things that commentators come up with when looking at Europe and North America. Continue reading “Rejection of Traditional Relationships: A Misandrist Double Standard”
I don’t know what inspired me to write this but it’s the bitter-sweetness we go through following a separation or divorce, waking up to the realities of the finished relationship. Continue reading “One Day She Won’t Be There: A Poem About Divorcing as a Man”
I have felt for some time that feminism is, in many ways, the very antithesis of the leftist school of thought out of which it was supposed to have been born. By its very nature, the left is supposed to be progressive – open to new ways of thinking and doing things, and most importantly – open to all-comers. It’s supposed to listen and discuss. Yet feminism appears not to hold these liberal values as sacrosanct. If anything, many modern feminists have become everything it abhors about the conservatism against which it stands. Continue reading “When Feminism Betrays Leftist Principles, it Should Be Called Out”
My best friend recently told me he “loved me”. He kissed me on the cheek in front of his wife and called me “a beautiful person”. I did not feel threatened, nor did I feel the need to laugh it off with a “you’re drunk, aren’t you?” It was natural. It felt right. His girlfriend was also there so it was meant as a genuine show of affection. Continue reading “Bromance Blossoms When Shaming Ceases”