Had a bit of a heart to heart with the landlady a couple of days ago over a glass of wine. I filled her in on the story with Miss X and discussed my surprise at the apparent escalation of interest from Little Red. As a former business headhunter who recently decided to vacate the rat race, she had a theory that it was about female competitiveness. Let me explain what she meant…
I was honest about my feelings for Miss X from the beginning in discussions with Little Red. I thought nothing of it at the time as I didn’t expect to meet her at all, let alone so quickly and let alone for a second date and now a third date. In a previous email I’d told Little Red that Miss X and I had fallen out and that this was partly responsible for my low mood. When we met at the weekend I filled her in that Miss X and I had agreed to cut communication while we focussed on ourselves and agreed to talk again down the line. I explained that I was now happy that we would never be more than friends and that I needed to withdraw in order to get over this very long term crush and move on.
My landlady believes that Little Red is seeing her opportunity to make a move while Miss X is off the scene, before such time that she possibly changes her mind and comes crawling back. Now, I know that is highly unlikely but as Little Red does not know Miss X and does not know the full story, she would have no way of knowing that this will not happen. If my landlady’s theory is true, (and assuming that she does want more than friendship) Little Red can see an opening and is moving in while she has the chance. This is possible I guess…?
So ladies, this one is for you. Are you that competitive? Are your friends? Or is my landlady’s view skewed by her background in the cutthroat world of business?