I was frequenting the blog of one of my lovely, wonderful subscribers as I tend to do in gratitude for those who come here and offer me encouragment and advice. One of those is Emily who writes as The Blogging Runner. Surprisingly, her blog is about running – something I have discovered a bit of a passion for in the last few months. On the front page is this image:
Now though this image is about fitness in general and running in particular, there is another message here related to self-esteem. Those of us with low self-esteem rarely credit ourselves for our achievements. I know I’ve done it in the past and I know that I still do it to some degree at times.
If we look at this caption from a point of view of self-esteem, we see a statement that we should credit ourselves instead of our environment or other external forces. How often do we excuse our hard work? How often do we say the following:
* I got lucky
* Anyone could have done it
* Seriously, it was ok and I could have done better
We are crediting external forces and dismissing our own achievements. It’s easy is another one of those dismissals when we should realise that any such achievement is no easier or harder than it was yesterday, last week, last year. If I can run a mile in 12 minutes today but in three months I can run the same mile on the same course in ten minutes, has the course got easier? No…
It is because we have improved.
It is because of our dedication or talent or stubbornness.
Realising these simple words: You got better is the key to improving our self worth. And in that moment we stop crediting the external forces and start accepting that we are responsible do we finally liberate ourselves from the shackles of the low self-esteem that holds us back.
You get better
Remember those three words.
I will try to do so.