Despite that there seemed to be some promise, as with l’Canadien, my date from last weekend (chatterbox) has not responded to my request for a second date. This is despite that I have spotted her online a couple of times. As per going through the motions, I have removed her from my favourites list and deleted our conversation thread.
A shame, and as rude as I think it is not to respond to somebody you have met and got on with, that’s her prerogative and I’m not going to chase. I’m staying away from the dating sites now until I am back home and feeling settled. I will probably be away for about a month (I’ll make an exception for others I have previously dated as it’s not so much hard work).
How do people generally feel about responding to somebody you have already met? I can understand just not responding to a new contact but I feel if you have met somebody, and whether you got on or not, though not obliged it is courteous to say “thanks, I liked you and enjoyed your company but I don’t think there was anything there.” Because what we often have is people being dishonest about wanting to meet again and then going silent when the request is made. Granted, neither chatterbox nor water baby said they wanted a second date during the course of the first, but l’Canadien was incredibly enthusiastic about meeting up yet ignored the two messages I sent her later (one wishing her a Merry Christmas and the other to ask if she was back in the country yet about three weeks later).
I accept that these people are still virtual strangers and I do not feel they owe me anything yet out of decency I would always respond if I was approached for a second date and didn’t want one.
Is courtesy over-rated these days? Or are they simply worried about being abused?