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Filtering and online dating #3

My week in dating – sheesh what a busy one. But I’m down to two girls now (three if I count the long-distance potential of Mirror Image).

My week kicked off on Monday evening with a date with The Sergeant. Not my sort of thing if I am honest. She was interesting and we were into a lot of the same things. But… I found her generally too serious as a person. She also shook my hand – which I find too cold for a date. Luckily I had already leaned in for the obligatory kiss on the cheek. She had a sense of humour but for most of the date had a stony face.

She was also clearly looking for an alpha male – which I’m certainly not and don’t intend to be. She seemed to want me to decide everything including what she was to drink. Working in a military environment she is probably used to being told what to do all the time but outside of work, no thanks. I had too many reservations there so didn’t ask for a second date. As she’s unlikely to ask me, clearly it isn’t going to happen.

I was expecting this weekend to meet the girl who messaged me last weekend (Miss Manic). However, she hasn’t been online to read my “fancy meeting up this weekend?” message so that hasn’t happened.

What I did do though was meet Indiechick for a second date this last Friday night. This was a highly enjoyable date. We had a laugh, enjoyed a nice curry and got to know each other a little better. She told me that she is twice divorced. Though this might put off some men, it didn’t bother me and she gave me a few more details about both marriages. It also didn’t bother her that I’m back living with family – so that was an obstacle over for me. We also regaled each other with stories of past dates. Generally, the date went as well as can be expected.

She is definitely a slow mover – understandable with two failed marriages and we are definitely meeting up again πŸ™‚

Not much else to say but everything else seems to be ticking along quite nicely.



I go by the name of Frank Speaking. My blog "In the Mind of Men" (former name Chin Up, Chest High) started out as a chronicle of my mental health recovery. Now it is a forum where I discuss issues related to male mental health.

4 thoughts on “Filtering and online dating #3

    1. No problem being nosey, it’s why I blog!

      You might recall in the beginning there were all these obstacles “oh you’ve been married”, “oh you’ve had more relationship experiences than I have”, “oh I’ll feel out of depth in a relationship with an older guy” (there’s just 7 years between us). Recently though she has warmed to it. When we discussed it about three weeks ago, she said she “didn’t mind” treating it as a date. Last week though, she was in a city nearby for me. She was there to see friends and we tried to work a time that was convenient for me to go and meet her there. Bearing in mind she was only stopping there on the way to somewhere else where she was going for another date, her words were “it would have been ideal [for us to meet here] but I haven’t seen my friends in over a year, there’s so many places I want to visit here and I’d feel guilty spending all my time with them going on dates.” That was the first time she referred to our upcoming meeting as a date.

      I wonder if she’s warming to it because I’ve been out on lots of dates in the last month and getting on really well with Indiechick… that old female competitive streak πŸ˜‰

      1. Yeah, she may feel as though she might be losing you and that makes you question whether you’re letting a good one get by you. I guess we’ll have to wait and see what happens!

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