Karen Straughan is fast becoming my favourite vlogger. Where most anti-feminists have a Conservative Christian agenda, rarely do you see one who approaches gender roles and equality from a completely rationalist perspective.
Please first watch this video. I’ve already watched a few of her vlogs but this one really caught my eye.
It speaks to the double standards, naturally, of the feminist who complains about being objectified for her body when she will do exactly the same to men… and excuse it in any number of ways.
So how do women objectify men?
- “Diet Coke Break” objectifies the male body
- The desirability of a tall, strong, muscly man – he is being objectified in the role of protector
- The desirability of an educated man with a good job – he is being objectified in his role as provider
- The desirability of an emotionally strong man (usually worded as “I want a real man”) – to provide the emotional stoicism and mental strength that we are supposed to all possess so we do not appear weak (which as I have said countless times is detrimental to male mental health, but let’s not get off topic here)
The above are no different from a man objectifying a woman for youth and beauty. The fact that it is far less talked about, or that feminists will always attempt to excuse it by using smoke and mirror phrases, it doesn’t change – as Straughan says – that men objectify women for their appearance of health and youth (as ornaments), and women objectify men for their utility to women (as appliances)
Sex sells, but it is also natural for the continuation of the species. When a woman is approached in a bar by a man who is shorter then her, is overweight and balding then she is not rejecting him on the basis of feeling a lack of emotional connection – unless she is able to read his mind. Whichever way you look at it, she is objectifying him as not good enough for her purely because he is short, balding and overweight.
That’s not to say that objectification cannot be a bad thing – of course it can be and we had the perfect example of that a couple of weeks ago in the USA when a disturbed individual decided he would kill a group of people in revenge. Personally, I think that gender roles in the USA are screwed up and I personally cannot identify with the problems that both men and women complain about the other gender. Again, that’s another subject.
The problem arises when we are unable to see members of the opposite sex as people with the same needs and desires that we have. When out of control we use people: a gold-digging woman is no different from a man who uses women for sex; to me it is the same thing.