Ladies, seriously, I know you think you are doing us a favour by making suggestions on how we should be in order to make
your life the world easier, but I am getting quite sick and tired of women (especially feminists) deciding – for men – what men should be like. If you were not born a male, then you really don’t know what it is like to be a man. I’m sorry but that is all there is to it… and you have no right to decide what a man should be.
Sadly this sort of thing isn’t just prevalent, it is positively encouraged by woman-centric media. It is here, here, here… and this one which presents an impossible ideal… ad infinitum really. I find it amusing that a lot of these magazines are written for the modern liberated woman yet while their mothers and grandmothers fought for the rights they now enjoy, they want to keep the right for themselves to decide on what men should be and how we should act. You are more than a mother, a wife, a cook and cleaner and we are more than a provider and protector. A man is more than his utility to you.
If that is what you look for in a man then I wish you luck. I doubt you will find him because what you appear to be looking for is a reflection of yourself and an ideal that doesn’t exist. However, you do not get to decide for men what men should be like.
Right lads, you don’t get off lightly either. Yes, we too are to blame. Obsessed with cars, breasts, beer and sport, typical male-centric media adds nothing to the changing role of men in society… desperately pushing an image that few really live up to and promoting the image that men have no depth. They present a ridiculous standard to which we should all hold ourselves. A real man likes fast cars, a real man likes women with fake boobs, a real man has stubble and doesn’t show his emotions, a real man goes to strip clubs and comes home drunk and don’t listen to no woman on what time he should be home.
It’s equally frustrating because it feels like Cold War rhetoric. Every time one side does or says something, the other has to outdo them to show that they are more right. It’s a pissing contest and at the extreme ends we have militant feminists who think men should be banned from doing just about anything, and at the other we have the MRA who long for the return of the day when women were in the kitchen and squirted out babies. Sorry to both sides, but you are never going to get what you want. The world is changing and deciding that you and you alone should decide what all men should be like and how we should act helps nobody.
So let me finish by saying – with no small amount of irony – that a real man knows the importance of his own individuality.