If there’s one thing I cannot stand, it is hearing women constantly whine and complain about how they can never find any decent men. Whether online or in social settings, I think we all know that the problem isn’t that there are no decent men, it is that they are being approached by normal, average men.
The problem, is that people are getting narcissistic and considering themselves entitled to something they may never attain and this article at the ever brilliant And That’s Why You’re Single demonstrates in part what the problem is. Please read the letter and the response.
These attitudes are further exemplified in this article from The Daily Mail five years ago.
“You sensed that they absolutely worshipped themselves, though none of them was drop-dead gorgeous or had amazing personalities, jobs or anything else to set them apart and elevate themselves into some superior position.”
I came across a narcissistic attitude with two of my dates. I mentioned The Sergeant before who I felt was playing games in trying to make me fit her “alpha male” requirements. I was having none of it and I remember some of my body language registered that I was completely unimpressed with her behaviour. She sent me a long rambling email a week after our date, apologising in every sentence and explaining how she “didn’t think it could work”, how I “wasn’t what she was looking for, blah blah, sorry, best of luck, sorry again. bye! sorry!” My response was short and basically said that the feeling was mutual and that it was obvious that neither of us were what the other was looking for from the start. Somebody who expects me to choose what they drink and then looks disapprovingly when I hand it to them is already off on the wrong foot with me. Perhaps she expected me to be distraught that she didn’t want to see me again, I don’t know.
The other was my pity date with Miss Give-Me-A-Chance. Similarly, after our 35 minute date (which is the point at which I made my excuses and should have been a sign that neither of us was into it), she too left it a few days to send me a lengthy email pointing out how we were not right for each other, how she wished me luck and hoped I got my own place soon and found someone who shared some of my interests in the way that she didn’t. I remember it came off a little sarcastic, once again probably with the assumption that I should have been grateful she gave me the opportunity, and perhaps expecting a begging letter in return?
Nope, not going to happen.