Memes like this really bother me. Don’t get me wrong, I like a woman with curves. Mirror Image is medically overweight but has an amazing hourglass shape. I have said it before that body size is far less important to me than body shape, and a woman with a shape that appeals to me is nearly always going to look good no matter what her dress size.
This meme that calls into question the sexuality of men who prefer more slender women (and others like it – “only dogs like bones, real men like meat” for example) bother me for several reasons. Firstly, it once again decides on behalf of men what we should and shouldn’t find attractive and attempts to shame us for making the “wrong” choice.
I know what I like and I like women in all shapes and sizes. Of the dates I had before meeting Mirror Image, I would say that Mischief was the largest and she was one of those I felt the most physical attraction for, but that’s not to say that slimmer women don’t turn my head either – because they do: both Ubergeek and Indiechick were very slender. It is not anybody else’s place to decide for me or to judge me for or any other man for what we should and should not find attractive, nobody else’s place at all.
If I like catwalk models, that’s none of your business
If I prefer morbidly obese women, that too is none of your business
If I prefer blondes, that’s none of your business
If I prefer brunettes, that’s none of your business
If I prefer bald women, that’s none of your business
If I prefer women who wear glasses, that’s none of your business
If I prefer women who don’t wear glasses, guess what? That too is none of your business
Why we as a world have suddenly decided that Facebook memes dictate to men what men should and should not find attractive, and what that says about their sexuality if they differ, I really do not know. Men are often praised now for saying we prefer curvier women and scorned for saying when we prefer smaller women. It’s become socially unacceptable to prefer slimmer women – why? What should be socially unacceptable is shaming what other people find attractive.
Ultimately, is it not down to the individual what they find attractive? Often, this is not a matter of conscious choice. We have our own preferences that we develop over the years. Me? I go wild for redheads and there’s nothing sexier than a body covered in freckles. That’s my preference, nobody has told me to like that and I haven’t decided to like that purely because it goes against what I am supposed to like. I cannot explain why I like it, I just do.
The other issue is one thing we talk about a lot – body-shaming. When did it become acceptable to body-shame slimmer people? Why is still acceptable to tell a skinny woman to stop starving herself and eat a Big Mac, but not acceptable to tell a larger woman to get her head out of the fridge for a few moments?