So here I am, starting my 40th birthday in the face. Many people go into despair at this point as though their lives are over to all intents and purposes. I’m not. I can’t fight it and I’d rather be 40 than dead. I’d rather be 40 and self-employed having been through everything I’ve been through than 30 and wondering where the hell my life might be going, as so many people seem to do these days.
I see it far more positively than that though. My 30s were the most dramatic years of my life and despite everything, I wouldn’t change them.
- At 29-30, I made some of the closest and most loyal friends I could ever hope to meet
- At 30, I moved in with the woman I thought I would spend the rest of my life with
- At 32, I finished my degree and got a good grade from a great university
- At 33, I got engaged
- At 34, I finished my master’s degree and got married
- Around my 36th birthday, my marriage began to break down with my wife’s affair
- At 37, I filed for divorce and began dating, meeting some truly amazing people
- Also at 37, I almost took my own life
- Shortly after my 38th birthday, my divorce finalised and I was free
- Also at 38, I set up my own business
- Also at 38, I met my now girlfriend
- At 39, I realised I was head over heels for Mirror Image and we made our relationship formal to the world
I hate to summarise ten years of my life in just a few lines, but when I look at it, it makes me realise how quickly the decade flew by. At 30, I would neve have imagined where I would be now on the eve of my 40th. I could never have predicted the pain and the joy, the people I met at university and in dating. I could never have imagined the one person I trusted in the world betraying that trust.
If my 40s are as eventful as my 30s were, then I am in for a fun ride. I am in a stable place. I am happy. I have an amazing, beautiful girlfriend, a great sex life, self-employment is going well but could be better and we may move in together in a place I have always felt drawn to. I have no children, no commitments beyond my relationship and the world remains my oyster.
I intend for this next decade to be every bit the adventure as the last one.