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One Day She Won’t Be There: A Poem About Divorcing as a Man

I don’t know what inspired me to write this but it’s the bitter-sweetness we go through following a separation or divorce, waking up to the realities of the finished relationship.

One day, she won’t be there.
You’ll wake up with cold mattress for company.
You’ll have the bed to yourself.
You’ll miss her snoring next to you.
You’ll crave the company of her.
You’ll miss breakfast in bed on a Sunday.

One day, she won’t be there,
You’ll be introduced to new friends.
You’ll be you, not you and your wife.
You’ll have fun, but things seem different.
You’ll crave the occasional touch of her hand.
You’ll crave leaving together.

One day, she won’t be there,
You’ll be anywhere such as sitting on a beach,
You’ll have the world to yourself,
You’ll look over at couples kissing and flirting,
You’ll miss her slightest touch,
You’ll crave that closeness with her again.

One day, she won’t be there,
You’ll realise that you’re free of her shitty behaviour,
You’ll have a moment of sublime realisation,
You’ll see your escape from her clutches.
You’ll recognise how controlling she was.
You’ll not miss her emotional blackmail.

One day, she won’t be there,
You’ll realise your friends were right.
You’ll know why they said “better off without her”
You’ll see how her behaviour was borderline abusive.
You’ll come out stronger, you won’t miss her.
You’ll find yourself -as they say and be better.

One day, she won’t be there,
You’ll find somebody else, I promise.
You’ll find somebody who deserves you,
You’ll find somebody for new memories,
You’ll see the world in a whole new light.
You’ll heal, repair and come back stronger.



I go by the name of Frank Speaking. My blog "In the Mind of Men" (former name Chin Up, Chest High) started out as a chronicle of my mental health recovery. Now it is a forum where I discuss issues related to male mental health.

4 thoughts on “One Day She Won’t Be There: A Poem About Divorcing as a Man

    1. Thank you! It sort of represents my feelings of moving from the emptiness of missing everything about my ex through to realising that she was not only imperfect, but a bit of a cow at times and how I was better off without her.

  1. CUCH, that was beautiful and so true — especially the part when you realize you’re better off without that person. I am finally at that place where, being free of the person I was married to is the greatest gift he gave to me. I sometimes want to send him a ‘thank you’ card for initiating the divorce.

    1. I wanted to convey the despair and the waking up in a single piece of poetry. I’m so glad it worked for another divorcee 🙂

      Sadly, I can’t send her a thank you note as we began the petition to dissolve our marriage as a joint decision.

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