Posted in Gender

Masculinity and “Womansplaining”

.Mansplaining is a thing, but it’s not as prevalent or as systemic as feminists believe or tell each other. It’s not the deliberate and insidious tool of oppression that it is presented as. It’s just being a dick while having an inferiority complex that there is somebody who knows better than you do. Sure, some men feel threatened by knowledgeable and more qualified women, but it’s not the norm.

Being a dick is neither unique to nor systemic in men. Womansplaining is definitely a thing too. Women do condescend to men, treating us as the bumbling idiots we are presented as in sit-coms. I see examples of it day in, day out. Like mansplaining, it is not the norm, but it happens often enough. Here are some examples:

It’s Easier for You, You’re a Man

Have you ever heard or said this or variations on it? “It’s easier for you, you’re a man”? What about “I know how men think” or “I know what men are like”. No… you don’t. That’s womansplaining about the male experience and male psyche. Every time any woman makes a blanket statement that men have everything easier, that’s womansplaining. How would she know when she is not and has never been a man? Every time a woman makes a blanket statement about what men think when she has never been a man, that is womansplaining.

I know About Your Depression Better Than You Do

My particular bug bear as a man who suffers from bouts of depression is being told that women understand my mental illness better than I do. As a woman, you don’t know my experiences. You don’t know what it’s like for any man going through depression. Women also try to invoke the “caring, compassionate feminine” as though that is some sort of trump card. It isn’t. You don’t know what I go through every time I have a bout of depression and it’s insulting to invoke female supremacy.

The Cure for Men’s Problems is Being More Like Women

On a similar note, when any woman decides that the best way for men to get over their difficulties is to act more like a woman, or when she thinks that feminism is the answer to male-specific problems. Men and woman are different; we handle things in different ways. Deciding that male ways of solving problems is wrong is arrogant and ignores male hard-wiring…. womansplaining

How To Be a Real Man Articles Written By Women

The web is full of videos and articles, some trite and clickbaity, some born out of a genuine desire to help – on how to be a real man. It seems, at times, that most of these articles are written by women. They fall into some of the same traps already discussed above – how men should be more like women and how all our troubles would go away if we were more open with our feelings… just like women! Every time a woman thinks she can solve male crises by writing an article on how to be a Real Man or a Better Man, that too is womansplaining

Armchair Psychology Because “Female Intuition”

In judging and dismissing male sexuality. Many women get angry at the idea that men seek out younger women than themselves. Firstly, we chase younger women as part of our hard-wiring. Youth and beauty are essential for procreation. Even men who don’t want children are drawn to young and attractive women. It’s similar hard-wiring for why women crave tall and successful men. Yet women often feel a right to judge, dismiss and ridicule men’s sexual preferences, denying this hard-wiring. If you have never experienced sexual attraction as a man and think you understand it, you are potentially womansplaining

Which is More Painful?

A question that comes up a lot is whether it is more painful to give birth or to get a kick to the testicles. The only logical answers we can come up with is “I don’t know”. That’s because we all have the capacity to experience one or the other but not both due to biology. Of course, the womansplainer knows the answer – it’s childbirth. She doesn’t have testicles but apparently she knows how sensitive they are.

Advertisements

Author:

I go by the name of Frank Speaking. My blog "In the Mind of Men" (former name Chin Up, Chest High) started out as a chronicle of my mental health recovery. Now it is a forum where I discuss issues related to male mental health.

2 thoughts on “Masculinity and “Womansplaining”

  1. I don’t want to be preggers so I have that on the other hand I can definitely live without a kick in the balls. None of us have it figured out when it comes to differences between men & women. Even I’m still getting a handle on it.

    1. You’re quite right, which is why it bugs me that some women feel they understand men better than men do. I wouldn’t be so arrogant as to assume I know how all women collectively think on everything.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s