Posted in Dating / Relationships, Mental Health

Signs She Wants You Co-Dependent

While I am certainly not brooding, the more I look back on my marriage the more I realise how toxic it was. One of the main issues for my ex-wife is her unhealthy co-dependency issues. Although it largely focused on an overbearing mother, there were signs for many years that she wanted me in an unhealthy co-dependent relationship with her. Here are the signs that your wife or girlfriend wants you to be co-dependent. Continue reading “Signs She Wants You Co-Dependent”

Posted in Dating / Relationships, Self Esteem

The Thoughts in Your Head on a Date When You Have Self-Esteem Issues

I can hardly believe it’s been over three years since I last went on a date (not a bad thing, I’m in a relationship as my long-term readers will know). At the time I started dating in late 2012, I was also starting to do something about my self-esteem issues. That meant much more anxiety than anybody else may be experiencing. I remember most of my dates with fondness. Equally, I remember some of the critically negative thoughts that accompanied even the best dates. Continue reading “The Thoughts in Your Head on a Date When You Have Self-Esteem Issues”

Posted in Dating / Relationships, Separation / Divorce

5 Reasons Why I’ll Never Get Married Again

Long-term readers will know that my marriage broke down because my ex-wife cheated. After just two years of marriage (and a decade of being together before that), she chose a person she had never met in person over somebody with whom she had spent 12 years. That process led to a lot of soul-searching for me which included the loss of the fear of being single. My attitude towards long-term commitment has also changed. I love my girlfriend and think the world of her, but I do not want to get married a second time. Continue reading “5 Reasons Why I’ll Never Get Married Again”

Posted in Dating / Relationships, Gender

“Pandoragate” Shows Men Still Objectified as Providers

You would think that a woman sharing the picture of her engagement ring on social media would be met with nothing less than delight. You would think that most people would be happy for her. You would not expect that woman to be the subject of a personal attack for her choice of ring. That is what happened to poor Ariel McRae. Continue reading ““Pandoragate” Shows Men Still Objectified as Providers”

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First Christmas…

Although this is not our first Christmas as a couple, it is our first as a live in couple. And it will be just us 🙂 The last two Christmases we have spent with my other half’s family. I have been adamant for months that I wanted to stay here in my new home this year and not travel as we have the last couple of years. The provision that family can come to see us if they wish is there, and we may see my brother at some point, but it looks as though Christmas Day will be just me and my other half. Continue reading “First Christmas…”

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Bumble Calls Out “Misogynist” – But There Are Always Two Sides

A well-publicised story a couple of weeks ago led to “feminist” dating site Bumble remove and block one of its male users. Then they went to social media to herald him as everything that is wrong with men  in modern dating sites and why they are the solution (I suspect that the following exchange may be entirely fictional to prove a point, but I will proceed as though the events actually took place). Continue reading “Bumble Calls Out “Misogynist” – But There Are Always Two Sides”

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Difficulty Adjusting to a New Place

It’s not been as easy as I thought it would be. I don’t know anybody here (yet) but am taking steps to amend that – I’ve signed up for a social group for the work from home. No friends or family (yet) have come to stay – but that will change in the next couple of weeks as we accept visitors over the coming few weekends. I have had a lot of work on recently and adjusting to my new life here is proving to have its obstacles. I sometimes feel cabin fever and occasionally feel a little too isolated. I struggle to make friends at times. Continue reading “Difficulty Adjusting to a New Place”