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Getting Through Autumn and Winter with SAD

Most people feel sluggish and tired and a little grumpy in the autumn and winter. For some people, it’s a hell of a lot worse than feeling a little blue and glum. I love the autumn for the colours and the vibrancy but I am aware that my mood and disposition tends to change. I have never received a diagnosis of Seasonal Adjustment Disorder, but I live my life as though I do have the condition. Some autumn-winter periods are worse than others. Continue reading “Getting Through Autumn and Winter with SAD”

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Some Reasons Why Men Might Commit Suicide

Today is World Suicide Prevention Day. As I look back on 2012, the year I seriously contemplated taking my own life, I started to contemplate what the world has achieved to raise awarness and reduce deaths through suicide. Of course, today is not about male suicide, but we can’t ignore the gendered aspect of this phenomena considering in the UK and the USA, over 3/4 of annual suicides are men. Continue reading “Some Reasons Why Men Might Commit Suicide”

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Men, Depression and Anger: Be Scared *For* Not *Of* Us

I started putting this post together just a few weeks ago but a recent post about male suicide on insideMAN about men, anxiety, depression and suicide has spurred me on to finish it off.

In the last couple of posts, I’ve discussed my increased anxiety and mood swings. The economic and political situation here in the UK has not helped but I don’t think that is a cause. It’s certainly not helped that this government is determined to flog the country to the highest bidder and destroy the NHS, but it hasn’t triggered the mood. I get anxious and depressed and express my anxiety by swearing in frustration and raising my voice. I do not and have never been violent except in my tone. Continue reading “Men, Depression and Anger: Be Scared *For* Not *Of* Us”

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Symptoms of Depression in Men

Despite life being generally pretty good in the last year, I’ve had my low moments. I’ve had several bad days in the last month alone. The situation in our country is not helping. For those who don’t know, Theresa May’s (so far) complete fuck up of Brexit, self-serving authoritarianism and my worries about the future the country is taking – into isolationism, xenophobia and attempting to have pissing contests with other EU members are not helping my mood, this situation has not caused it. Continue reading “Symptoms of Depression in Men”

Posted in Dating / Relationships, Mental Health

Signs She Wants You Co-Dependent

While I am certainly not brooding, the more I look back on my marriage the more I realise how toxic it was. One of the main issues for my ex-wife is her unhealthy co-dependency issues. Although it largely focused on an overbearing mother, there were signs for many years that she wanted me in an unhealthy co-dependent relationship with her. Here are the signs that your wife or girlfriend wants you to be co-dependent. Continue reading “Signs She Wants You Co-Dependent”

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What Would It Take For You to See a Man as Vulnerable?

This wonderful and hard-hitting new advert from Childline – the UK charity for children going through difficulties, is once again tackling teenage suicide. This advert will resonate with any adult man or teenage boy struggling with mental illness and the daily anxieties, anger, frustration and emotional rollercoaster. Please watch it. Continue reading “What Would It Take For You to See a Man as Vulnerable?”

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Dos and Don’ts for Living with a Depressed Man

My mood has been up and down over the last week and I have no explanation. I am feeling more fulfilled in life and happier than I ever have. It might be the winter blues, but I don’t think I have ever noticed a marked reduction in my mood during the colder months than the spring and summer. In fact, it last happened 18 months ago on a warm summer’s day. Continue reading “Dos and Don’ts for Living with a Depressed Man”