I used to think if I hadn’t burst a blood vessel on trying to achieve something, I failed. If I wasn’t making myself physically, mentally and emotionally ill with worry and stress, I was slacking. This is a problem when you have low self-esteem. No matter how much effort you plough into a project, no matter how hard you work, no matter what you achieve, you can never live up to your own expectations. I used to call myself a perfectionist but now I know better. Continue reading “When You Have Low Self Esteem Your Best is Never Good Enough”
I can hardly believe it’s been over three years since I last went on a date (not a bad thing, I’m in a relationship as my long-term readers will know). At the time I started dating in late 2012, I was also starting to do something about my self-esteem issues. That meant much more anxiety than anybody else may be experiencing. I remember most of my dates with fondness. Equally, I remember some of the critically negative thoughts that accompanied even the best dates. Continue reading “The Thoughts in Your Head on a Date When You Have Self-Esteem Issues”
While it’s certainly true that most of us strive for success in our lives, and for men especially success if largely a cultural expectation, it’s also true that sometimes we feel like a fraud. We ask ourselves how we got that job, that contract. How did we attract that partner? Why is this person even with us? They’ll leave us when they realise how inadequate we are. Continue reading “Feeling Like a Fraud?”
Because of the expectations put on men to always be strong, to keep a stiff upper lip, to “man up” and “grow a set”, it is often difficult for us men to talk about our difficulties and struggles. That is something that needs to change before we can even begin to tackle the crises facing modern men. Continue reading “Why Women’s Perception of Men’s Lived Experiences Needs to Change”
It’s been about a month since Mirror Image and I saw each other. Her work pattern and the fact that we saw a lot of each other in April meant we knew we would be going nearly eight weeks without seeing each other. I miss her, I really do. Continue reading ““I Miss F***king You””
I have always said and continue to maintain that opposite sex friendships can be the most rewarding and valuable most of us (men or women) will go through in our lives. Opposite sex friends often share an honesty that does not always exist between same-sex friends.
I hit 40 in the last week and for many, it is a time of glumness and misery and the descent past what is typically the halfway point of the average human lifespan. Yet in recent years, friends and acquaintances who have turned 40 have felt the opposite – some sort of rejuvenation. Continue reading “Introvert and Proud”