Posted in Mental Health

What Would It Take For You to See a Man as Vulnerable?

This wonderful and hard-hitting new advert from Childline – the UK charity for children going through difficulties, is once again tackling teenage suicide. This advert will resonate with any adult man or teenage boy struggling with mental illness and the daily anxieties, anger, frustration and emotional rollercoaster. Please watch it. Continue reading “What Would It Take For You to See a Man as Vulnerable?”

Posted in Dating / Relationships, Self Esteem

The Thoughts in Your Head on a Date When You Have Self-Esteem Issues

I can hardly believe it’s been over three years since I last went on a date (not a bad thing, I’m in a relationship as my long-term readers will know). At the time I started dating in late 2012, I was also starting to do something about my self-esteem issues. That meant much more anxiety than anybody else may be experiencing. I remember most of my dates with fondness. Equally, I remember some of the critically negative thoughts that accompanied even the best dates. Continue reading “The Thoughts in Your Head on a Date When You Have Self-Esteem Issues”

Posted in Gender

Why I Have SOME Sympathy for MGTOW

There appear to be three “branches”, if you like, to the men’s movement. I think the one for which I have the most sympathy would be MGTOW (or Men Going Their Own Way). MRAs seem to be a largely right wing group (which I am not and do not identify with a large majority of their arguments). PUA seem to be about manipulating people based on pseudo-psychology and quack theories. In the middle is this group MGTOW. Continue reading “Why I Have SOME Sympathy for MGTOW”

Posted in Mental Health

Dos and Don’ts for Living with a Depressed Man

My mood has been up and down over the last week and I have no explanation. I am feeling more fulfilled in life and happier than I ever have. It might be the winter blues, but I don’t think I have ever noticed a marked reduction in my mood during the colder months than the spring and summer. In fact, it last happened 18 months ago on a warm summer’s day. Continue reading “Dos and Don’ts for Living with a Depressed Man”

Posted in Dating / Relationships, Separation / Divorce

5 Reasons Why I’ll Never Get Married Again

Long-term readers will know that my marriage broke down because my ex-wife cheated. After just two years of marriage (and a decade of being together before that), she chose a person she had never met in person over somebody with whom she had spent 12 years. That process led to a lot of soul-searching for me which included the loss of the fear of being single. My attitude towards long-term commitment has also changed. I love my girlfriend and think the world of her, but I do not want to get married a second time. Continue reading “5 Reasons Why I’ll Never Get Married Again”

Posted in Gender

Why Isn’t Your Content Gender Neutral?

I’ve been asked this question several times in comments and through emails. I roll my eyes every time I see it, and for several reasons. Often, these comments point out that I will have a “broader audience if you did it that way.” I suspect that their concern is far less about my outreach than it is about being offended at criticisms of women’s negative attitudes and actions and how they affect men. Continue reading “Why Isn’t Your Content Gender Neutral?”

Posted in Gender

Gender and The Walking Dead

The series has arguably undergone its biggest changes this season. The introduction of psychopathic villain Negan has given it a kickstart it needed. Love it or hate it, The Walking Dead is still around. Yet until now, it has not really dealt with gender roles beyond Rick coping as a single father. But this season is different. I feel there have been two critical issues this season important to men and masculinity. Continue reading “Gender and The Walking Dead”