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Codependency is Unhealthy. Why Do So Many Dating Bloggers Encourage It?

A few weeks ago, I unsubscribed from another dating blog giving bad advice. This was another instance where the female blogger seems to think that encouraging bad behaviour in its female readership is to “keep him in line” or make him more “romantic”. One of the most concerning bits of advice is how casually these bloggers encourage codependence. Continue reading “Codependency is Unhealthy. Why Do So Many Dating Bloggers Encourage It?”

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Rejection of Traditional Relationships: A Misandrist Double Standard

A recent report from Japan has shown that relationship conventions are changing. People are marrying older than they ever were, fewer people are marrying and the birth rate is dropping. Once again it’s being held up as some sort of crisis. This has been the growing trend for many years in the west. Analysis of the Japanese “problem” focuses on the same sorts of things that commentators come up with when looking at Europe and North America. Continue reading “Rejection of Traditional Relationships: A Misandrist Double Standard”

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5 Reasons Men Use Pornography That Are Not About Women

Pornography receives a lot of (mostly justified, but not always) criticism from all angles. It is said to objectify women; some former porn stars have come out and confessed horror stories about the industry. Psychologists criticise that it creates unhealthy expectations in relationships amongst young men (though why we don’t ascribe the same criticisms to romance literature that creates equal but different damaging relationship expectations in young women is anybody’s guess). Continue reading “5 Reasons Men Use Pornography That Are Not About Women”

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5 Reasons Why I’ll Never Get Married Again

Long-term readers will know that my marriage broke down because my ex-wife cheated. After just two years of marriage (and a decade of being together before that), she chose a person she had never met in person over somebody with whom she had spent 12 years. That process led to a lot of soul-searching for me which included the loss of the fear of being single. My attitude towards long-term commitment has also changed. I love my girlfriend and think the world of her, but I do not want to get married a second time. Continue reading “5 Reasons Why I’ll Never Get Married Again”

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First Christmas…

Although this is not our first Christmas as a couple, it is our first as a live in couple. And it will be just us 🙂 The last two Christmases we have spent with my other half’s family. I have been adamant for months that I wanted to stay here in my new home this year and not travel as we have the last couple of years. The provision that family can come to see us if they wish is there, and we may see my brother at some point, but it looks as though Christmas Day will be just me and my other half. Continue reading “First Christmas…”

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No Longer in an LDR

In December 2013, many of you may recall that I met the person to whom I would refer as Mirror Image. Following a year of dating with some stop-starts, some “no ways” and some great dates, I met this person who lives nearly 250 miles away from the town of my birth. For the previous 8 months, I had been living back with family while I started on the next stage of my life – post-divorce and newly self-employed. Continue reading “No Longer in an LDR”